Workshop Wednesday: Choosing Happiness

5:40 PM

We've all been there. The moment in our lives where we feel like nothing is going right and that one by one everything is falling a part. It may start with one small thing and next thing you know all that's important to you are gone. Wow. That's quite a depressing intro to a post with an up-lifting purpose, right?

Well the thing is sometimes, we need to experience the bad to see the good in our lives. If you think about it, if you constantly feel happy, how will you ever know that what you're feeling is happiness when you have nothing to compare it to. I know it sounds so cliche when people say these things, but stop and think about it for a second, because it's true.

Since you're in the moment of thinking of this thought, I want you to ponder on this: think of the happiest moment in your life. Now think of the saddest moment in your life. Did you have an answer for both? Chances are you do. If you don't then you're doing one of the two things.

Don't have answer for the happiest day of your life? Stop dwelling on the bad things that happen to you. It's so easy to focus on all the bad experiences you have. It's easy to remember when someone is making a mistake, but remember and focusing on these bad days, won't fix anything. Unless you're trying to look for ways you can improve on these bad times, there's no point in your going through these memories over and over again.

I remember going through a really bad break up when I was younger. Every night I would cry myself to sleep. It sounds so petty and silly now, but at that moment I thought my whole world was falling apart. Everyday I would think about him and what I did wrong, what I could've done better, done differently. I was beating myself up for something I couldn't change. He cheated. Done. I couldn't have done anything. He chose to cheat and that's his decision, not mine. Now, I'm here. I'm still alive, I'm still smiling, laughing and I'm in a great relationship. If I kept thinking about the same guy forever and a day, do you think I'll be in this relationship now? The same idea goes to everything else. If we dwell on the bad things, we may not be able to appreciate the good things and they might just pass us by.

Don't have an answer for the saddest day of your life? Great! That means you have learned to focus your energy in thinking of all the good that's in your life. Keep it up and share your positive energy to the world! It's not a bad thing to forget the bad times, just don't let forgetting be an excuse. If the trouble was caused by a decision you made, learn from it. Don't just set it aside and forget, because you will constantly face the same problems over and over again if you do.

We all go through tough times and sometimes it feels like it's more than we can handle; but, always remember that things happen for a reason. You will never be given something you can't handle. You may not understand it now, but in time, you will. It helps when you have a friend who you can confide in. Don't just keep it all in. If you would rather use a journal to put all your feelings on, go ahead.

It's hard to choose to be happy when you are facing problems, but choosing to be happy is going to give you strength to fight through the tough times. No one said it was going to be easy, but it will be worth it. Choose to be happy.

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